Welcome Rejection

Turning rejection around and use it as an opportunity for growth

Once gain Jeremy Sutton writes:

“Embrace Every Problem as a Gift

Creativity starts with an inspiration. That inspiration can be an idea you have or a problem you face. Every idea presents a problem as well as an opportunity. Put another way, Inspiration = Problem + Opportunity. The problem, or challenge, is how to manifest and realize the idea. The opportunity is to engage in the process of exploring solutions and to bring something into existence that didn’t exist before. With this perspective you can now embrace every problem and challenge as a gift. Every problem is an opportunity for creativity.”

We learn more from failure than success.  If all we get is praise, how do we handle rejection and where do the opportunities for change or growth exist?

With failure, after digestion, comes the motivation to look at what we are doing from another perspective.  To explore other solutions to problem(s). It is a nudge to take a fresher look or create another perspective

The idea is not to feel defeated but to welcome critique and failure to question our complacency and look at things afresh.  Few of us do not ride on the coattails of our successes and keep repeating over and over again until Bam!!  From our inner voice or critic: “No, that’s enough, not anymore”. “You are quite capable of exploring something new.”

As a watercolor painter one of my goals is to work towards recognition by my peers and gain acceptance into a Watercolor Society Juried Exhibitions.  I have had my fair share of rejections and, after the initial disappointment and feeling of deflation, I take another look at my submission.  I nearly always try to look with a objectivity and more critical, fresher eye. 

I hardly ever redo a painting, but the experience of rejection always makes me try a little harder with a new painting in whatever area I have judged to be the reason for rejection.  It could be the color palette or the something in the composition.   It could be the subject matter and the submission is judged as being ho-hum and “Oh, not another view of the Bridge of Sighs”.  Sometimes I decide on several facets of a particular painting that could benefit a second approach.  But, for sure, the rejections have prompted me to look more critically, nudge complacency and offer an opportunity for growth.

The arts, sports, a sales career, college studies, even parenthood are all areas where  disappointment and rejection is a part of the experience.  I remember as a parent, consoling my son during an experience of rejection and reassuring him to think of it as an opportunity to learn and grow.  We all have hurdles to jump and the more experience we have in jumping, the higher our poles and aims may go.  So welcome the challenge and never, ever take it personally.

It makes acceptance and success all the more rewarding.